Buhanga “Forgiveness Survey” - from Mother Givers Humanist School in Uganda

A “Forgiveness Survey” was recently taken of 15 children who attend Mother Givers Humanist School.

Scientific research indicates that it is mentally, physically and academically beneficial for children to “let go” of the anger, fear, resentment, and sadness caused by being hurt.

The survey was taken to determine:

  • what occurs in the daily life of Buhanga children that injures and hurts them?
  • are they able to “let go” of the negative emotions caused by the hurt?
  • are they able to understand the reasons why the person might have hurt them?

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Buddhism and Forgiveness: Interview with Terry Hyland

“Forgiveness” is a subject of contemporary scientific research by psychologists, neurologists, physicians, and international mediators, who are intrigued by the virtue’s multiple benefits. It is increasingly clear that individuals and communities who ‘let go’ of their grievances move forward with healthier lives.

Learning to forgive has also been championed, for thousands of years, by numerous religions and philosophies. To learn more about Buddhism’s perspective on forgiveness, I interviewed Terry Hyland http://www.mindfulness.ie/about/staff/terry-hyland

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Why teach kids to forgive? 

Peacemakers, poets, and researchers agree: forgiveness heals hurts and is good for the forgiver.

It’s been more than four decades, but I still can’t forgive what they did to me that summer afternoon. I was 14, strolling in the mall with my two “friends,” Roger and Carson. I had introduced them to each other the week before and now they were jabbering back-and-forth, leaving me out except to occasionally tease me.

“Hey Hank,” said Roger. “Go in this store and see what the milkshakes cost.”

“We’ll wait here,” said Carson.

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Nine Ways to Help Siblings Get Along Better

Science has shown that forgiveness—intentionally letting go of angry feelings toward someone who has harmed you—is good for the health and well-being of the forgiver. If you’re raising siblings, you can probably guess at another benefit: harmony at home.

Forgiveness is critical for healing conflicts between siblings and nurturing a lifelong, trusting bond, says leading forgiveness researcher Dr. Robert Enright, educational psychologist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and the founder of the International Forgiveness Institute. A study of more than 260 adult siblings offers evidence that the sibling relationship in childhood predicts their closeness as adults. 

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9 tips for keeping the peace

By teaching squabbling siblings how to forgive each other, experts say, you're giving them a valuable skill and strengthening their bond later in life.

Science has shown that forgiveness — intentionally letting go of angry feelings toward someone who has harmed you — is good for the health and well-being of the forgiver. If you’re raising siblings, you can probably guess at another benefit: harmony at home.

Forgiveness is critical for healing conflicts between siblings and nurturing a lifelong, trusting bond, says leading forgiveness researcher Dr. Robert Enright, educational psychologist at University of Wisconsin-Madison and the founder of the International Forgiveness Institute. 

Read the rest of the essay HERE